Stop Judging

If you are looking at someone and observing their actions, trying to understand their motives without a clue about why they do what they do.   You just think that certain people should know better they should be doing better.  The truth is that every time you should someone you make a judgment.  This means the wrong that you attribute to them actually belongs to you.

Based upon what you may or may not know you make a judgment.  You think that you are superior and that you have the right to determine what must be done, and how it must be done.  A judgment is a means of control.  You are trying to get people to do what you want or need so that you can feel better about yourself.  It is really a sign of fear. It is the discontent that you feel within. 

We each have our own set of lessons to learn and we take a different path to our lessons.  Become accepting of yourself and others.  Just let others be who they are and you be who you are.

Successful Women Rising

Most Successful women have joined the 5 am club or they just rise 1 hour before their normal rising time to do the following on a consistent basis.

1.       Scribing – The power of journaling  getting their thoughts out on paper.

2.       Silence – Sit in silence for 5-15 minutes daily. Don't eat, slip, just breathe.

3.       Affirmations – Give yourself a pep talk each day.  Say who you are or who you hope to become.

4.       Visualization – Create a vision board for the year and break it down in quarters.  (4)

5.       Exercise – Do yoga, walk and or stretch

6.       Reading – Choose some a book of the month.  Read 12 books in a year.  Looking for my book list coming out in the next few days.

 

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Lights, Camera, Accessories.......

Brrrrrrrrrrr!  It's cold outside and when I'm dressing for work it is my goal to stay warm and look professional.  One way to do that is to have my accessories ready to grab and go.  I've sorted my scarfs by color and size for easy access. I keep two pair of tights in each color ready wear and I don't have to really think about it. Below are the items that are a must have in the winter months to make  a great work outfit and to keep you warm too!

1. Leggings or tights in brown, black, grey and blue, 2. A third piece, a vest, scarf or sweater, AND  3. Boots (last season I said riding boots, but this year I going to go with just boots.  And remember there is no sparkle overload.  Just sparkle, layering on the arm party.

2.  Animal print and calf hair is everywhere and jewel tones are fun too:  Ruby, Emerald and my favorite is Teal.  Fun, fun, fun. .

Now, let's talk about the scarfs:  I'm sharing 6 ways to wear them below.

1. The European Knot - Around the neck.
2. Hat around the neck and tuck into your coat.
3. Hang loose - possible knot in the front.
4. Loose around the neck with a vest.
5. Over a dress as a wrap because of the air on your shoulders
6. Through a belt. 


My scarfs are not itchy, baby blanket soft and not heavy.  Layer these items on to give you the creative edge you need to make a classy wardrobe statement everyday.

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All Year Long

It's been a ride for 2016 and I don't think that I made a single post.  I thought about it, however, I never sat down and actually did.  It's all good, however, there a number of things and themes available in 2016 to have posted.  With that being said, I'm going to get ahead for 2017 and set up some post to be blogged.   Thanks for tuning in and watch for me info. 

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Reposition current talent

A more commonly embraced alternative is using existing staff to take on new responsibility and it's cost effective as well.  Here are some points to reflect on as you take on the task:  

1.     The key to this approach is to identify the right individual for this career changing move and the importance that mentoring will play.  There are certain skillsets like focus, vision and the ability to be calm under pressure are critical personal are skills that can not be taught.  These individuals know the technology environment, internal politics and the needs and expectations of the culture. providing some direction and allowing individuals to learn by doing

2.     Sending staff to comprehensive training workshops and courses where they can learn specific skillsets; like decision making, problem solving and communications are skills that can be learned and developed. 

 

3.  Paring the with an experience mentor who is responsible for guiding his or her training and development is useful.  By providing some one on one direction and allowing individuals to learn by doing a company can grow it's existing talent.

 

This is just a starting point a stay tuned for more to come.

 

Being Clear

When you have an intact, healthy sense of worth you value other people.  You realize that people are different. You understand that people see things and interpret things in different ways and there is nothing wrong with that.  You do not compare yourself to them, nor do you feel the need to compete with them.  You know who you are which means you can accept others as they are.

So many any people don't know or haven't learned this.  When you do have a healthy or intact sense of worthy, you feel the need to win every argument. You feel the need to always prove your point.  You are threatened by difference.  You need agreement with your views, your values and opinions in order to feel supported and acknowledged. Since you do have enough of your own worth to draw upon, you will set out to destroy the worth of those who you believe are opposing you. This is very sad an you should really seek some professional assistance.

Should you ever find yourself on the attack, realize that you are experiencing a sense of less than or not as good as.  When you find yourself tearing down someone else in order to prove your point, realize that you have lost your footing.  Disagreement is no the same as an attack.  When you call someone out, when you criticize their physical being, their talents or gifts or efforts, believing that their inability too agree with you someone how makes you wrong, realize that you have lost it.  You have lost your sens of worth.

Rating myself

This has been a week of self-inquiry as well as rating my skills at different assignments.  I have chosen to get myself to a better place by evaluating how well I have done on a scale of 1-10 and what it would take to have made whatever assignment I was working on a 10. 
The Benefits of reading this post are:
1. If you read this post you will perform better that you have in the past.
2. You will always come out of any assignment confident that you have done your best.
3. You will be aware of what you did wrong and what you can improve upon.

What I have found is that if I will look back at each event to rate myself and then determine what I would have made it a 10 it was not difficult to make things come out better.  This has been an extremely useful exercise even in retrospect.

I have began to use it in the reverse by asking the question before I begin the task "how can I make this assignment a 10?"  Immediately write down what I think would take the assignment to a 10 i.e. how can I make this posting interesting:

1. List the benefits to reading the post first.

2. Write the post and proof read it.
3. Close it by stating look for more later

This was very insightful as well as helpful for completing all of my assignments with a 10!